We are not two, but three

Center your lives around Christ. Try to be 
like Him, together. This is happiness.

As I was sitting down the other day, trying to figure out what topic I wanted to study, I came across a talk from the April 1995 General Conference. It was titled "Marriage and the great plan of happiness."

Our main purpose for being on Earth, other than to be tested, is to marry and raise a family centered around the Gospel, our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ.

To not only have a relationship with each other, but to have a personal relationship, and a relationship as a couple, with God.

Let me clarify; while I'm not married, I do have a girlfriend, and so I figured reading it might have something to pertain to me. 

And I was right.

The most important thing I got out of this talk was, "...don't just pray to marry the one you love. Instead, pray to love the one you marry." (Elder Kimball)

I was reading a book "31 prayers for my future wife", and came across this quote:

"I believed and trusted that God would provide for me a good (spouse). It was my commitment to prayer that helped me protect and prepare my heart for marriage. I looked forward to the day I would marry my best friend." 

Key word -- Prayer. He wrote 31 prayers for his future wife, not just that God would provide the right spouse, but that He would protect her and help prepare them both for the day they met. God has a plan for each of us and for a plan to work, we have to do our part. That includes preparing ourselves for the day we meet our spouse.

I went on to read in the talk about things you should do as a couple (married or dating) to strengthen your relationship with Christ. Throughout the talk, one thing kept being repeated -- Praying as a couple. When you pray as a couple, you are praying together to your Heavenly Father, to build a relationship with Him. And what can possibly be more important than that? Heavenly Father wants us all to succeed and to help us; but it's a two-way street. He can only help us if we help ourselves, in life and in marriage.

When you are angry with each other, when tension is high, feelings are hurt, praying as a couple may be the most important thing you can do. Joe Christensen, who gave this talk, says:

"We should pray to become more kind, courteous, humble, patient, forgiving, and, especially, less selfish."

A marriage is centered around these things. Praying for these things is praying for the success of your marriage.

A few more key points on successful relationships :

Joint scripture study
This is just as important as praying as a couple. Studying the scriptures together will help you build a Christ-centered relationship. You will grow spiritually, as a couple; and will help each other grow your testimonies of the gospel.

Never let life get so distracting, that you don't make time for your spouse.
This is especially important. With how busy life can get with work, school, activities, kids, technology; including movies, Netflix, Facebook and Twitter, never let any of these take priority over spending quality time with your spouse. You don't have to go on an expensive date; just do something where you can be together, in the moment.

I'm sorry.
I don't feel like this needs more explanation, but I'll explain anyway. I was raised in a great family. My parents are my role models; and one thing I always noticed growing up (and still notice) is that when my parents have an argument, they are both quick to apologize. They don't let anger get the best of them and they make sure they don't go to bed angry.

"When a husband and wife go together frequently to the holy temple, kneel in prayer together
 in their home with their family, go hand in hand to their religious meetings, keep their lives
 wholly chaste, mentally and physically...and both are working together for the upbuilding 
of the Kingdom of God, then happiness is at its pinnacle."

-President Kimball-

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this talk and researching the importance of having a relationship with Christ as a couple.

Marriage is a covenant with our Heavenly Father, one that is so very sacred.

Proverbs 18:22 - Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.

Ephesians 4:2-3 - With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, for bearing one another in love. Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 

Matthew 19:6 - Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 


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